Divorce can cause huge rifts between families, but if you deal with your divorce sensibly, the bitterness, anger and sadness should be short lived. Some divorce guidance tips include:
1.Dont let your emotions get the better of you, and try to think sensibly when discussing divorce with your spouse. You may love your ex or hate him/her, but try to stay civil during the divorce, as this can save you plenty of anguish and cash in the long run.
2.Only use a solicitor who is experienced in family law, and one who will guide you through the pitfalls of divorce with a minimum of fuss and hassle. A good divorce solicitor will get you the best settlement possible, and help you to look forward to a brighter future.
3.Dont automatically assume that getting the house is the best deal for you. Even if you are bringing up the children in the family home, if there is a large mortgage attached to it, you could be shooting yourself in the foot by asking for it. Let an experienced divorce solicitor guide you.
4.Try to remain civil in front of the children. However you feel about your ex, he/she is still their parent, and they need to feel loved by both of you, especially when one partner is leaving the family home. Never use the children as messengers to pass on messages to your ex as this will be upsetting for them.
5.If you have a joint insurance policy, make sure it is reviewed during or after your divorce, as you may want to change the name of the beneficiary to that of another family member or one of your children (if they are old enough).
6.Make sure your assets are professionally looked into by a divorce solicitor, or you could be cheated out of their proper worth. Arrange a professional valuation of assets, including any investments, property and businesses, and you will have a clearer picture of what you can ask for.
7.Embrace your new life as a single person and do all the things you have always wanted to do, within reason. Take up a new hobby, make new friends and expand your social circle. You will soon start to enjoy life again and look forward to a brighter future.
8.Make sure you prioritise your children, and make sure they feel secure and loved by both of you. Encourage them to visit your ex partner regularly, and arrange suitable times for them to stay over. Talk to the children about their feelings and encourage them to discuss the divorce if they are feeling sad.
9.If you are struggling financially after your divorce, find out what benefits you are entitled to. Contact the local social security office for an appointment, or go and see your local Citizens Advice Bureau (CAB), who can advise you on a range of issues free of charge.
10.If the reminders of your past relationship are all around the house, take them down, store them or throw them away. Give yourself time to get over your divorce, and understand that it is normal to feel sad, depressed and fragile for a few months afterwards. The pain is all part of the healing process, and once you are over the worse of it, you can look forward to a happy and fulfilling future.
Seek the help and advice of a regulated divorce solicitor in the UK, and one who will give you expert advice and help you help you through a stressful time. Choose a solicitor who offers free divorce papers to download, so you can start the divorce process in the comfort of your own home.
Adrian vultur writes for Free Divorce Forms
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